Let’s Talk About Self Love

I honestly think that every person on this planet has an insecurity, which is okay as nobody is perfect. There is all something we may be a bit insecure about ourselves, whether it’s something physical such as that little scar on your nose, you do not fit in your favourite pair of jeans anymore or the fact you don’t feel pretty. It may be something else, you may not like how you socialise or your voice. It’s okay to have these insecurities as everyone has them. But, what’s not okay is to turn these insecurities into something so big that you start to loathe yourself.

I for one knows how it feels to hate something about you, or really hate yourself in general. I know what it’s like to cry and breakdown, feeling like your worthless, ugly and belittled as you feel like everyone is better than you in every way possible. What’s quite ironic is that we can hate ourselves but we show so much love for other people. If our friend was telling us she hated her body, we would all reassure them that they have a body to die for. Whereas we can beat up ourselves that we don’t have the perfect body. If you had a friend who had the same voice as the one you doubt and beat yourself up with- would you want to be friends with them?

We all spread love and yearn for others to love us. But you cannot expect someone to love you if you cannot love yourself. When you look in the mirror and see something you don’t like, you actually need to think WHY don’t you like it. Is it because the people in magazines don’t have it? Is it because someone has told you it’s strange? If the reason why you don’t like that certain thing had never happened- you would have never originally had a problem with it.

We need to stop comparing ourselves with others because all it does is promote sadness. Comparison is the thief of joy and just sets off a catalyst of a chain reaction of disappointment. If I asked you all what was your favourite flowers, some of you may say red roses, others may say sunflowers and someone might say white lilies. All of those flowers are beautiful, yet they grow in different places, are different colours, different shapes and different sizes. If we can admire and think different flowers are pretty, then why can’t we think that different skin tones are pretty, or that different proportions of body shapes are beautiful? All of you are beautiful, just because one person is a rose and you are a sunflower doesn’t mean that your no more or less beautiful. You are a beautiful flower and you need to love every part of you because as soon as you do, you will bloom even more.

Self-love is the best kind of love.

Tash x

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  1. August 20, 2016 / 12:00 pm

    I have a couple of insecurities. Sometimes I pretend I don’t have them so it doesn’t get to me. It works most of the time This is such an inspirational post!

  2. August 20, 2016 / 2:38 pm

    This was such an amazing and inspirational post, thankyou for talking about this- as you say, we should all accept ourselves and recognize that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Loved <3 <3

    • August 20, 2016 / 3:33 pm

      Thank you so much- I’m so glad you liked it! xxx

    • August 20, 2016 / 10:04 pm

      Thank you ever so much! I’m glad you liked it! 🙂

  3. August 21, 2016 / 7:30 am

    Amazing and inspirational post!! Well done!
    We all have insecurites the point is to pass them.
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    • August 21, 2016 / 9:40 pm

      Thank you so much! Of course I’ll have a look at your blog!!

  4. August 21, 2016 / 8:41 pm

    Wow, you’ve written so beautiful! I think you talked about a really important Topic, becuase I also often Forget what you mentiioned! Thanks for sharing, I love your post! <3 (I also nominated you for an Award on my blog)

    • August 21, 2016 / 9:40 pm

      I’m so happy you liked it- thank you so much! Thank you for the nomination too! ❤︎

  5. August 23, 2016 / 8:54 pm

    This post is wonderful! I love the flowers analogy :)x

  6. August 27, 2016 / 7:56 pm

    I love this post and the flower analogy! 💕

  7. September 13, 2016 / 1:37 am

    I love this post! I actually just wrote a post about how I am overcoming some things that I felt held me back last year, just from not being true to myself, and seeing this just made me feel even better!

    • September 13, 2016 / 7:27 am

      Thank you! I’m so glad it’s made you feel better, it actually made me feel better just writing it. I’ll defiantly have a look at your blog!

      • September 14, 2016 / 1:04 am

        I totally know the feeling, sometimes if I have something on my mind writing is the only way to let it out it feels like! I cant wait to read more of your posts!

  8. October 2, 2016 / 9:17 am

    This was a great read! I’ve been feeling very bitter towards other people cause I just recently ended things with my partner. Now that he’s gone, I’m really trying to focus on myself. To truly be able love myself without needing other guys to give me that attention. Anyway, this really touched my heart. Thank you

    • October 2, 2016 / 10:31 am

      Thank you so much, I’m so sorry about you and your partner but focusing on yourself for a while will probably be the best thing for yourself! Thank you for reading!

  9. October 16, 2016 / 9:50 pm

    I really like the flowers analogy, it is perfect and relatable. I enjoyed your post, it brings insight to us when experiencing insecurities. Thanks!

  10. jamivee
    November 29, 2016 / 8:43 pm

    I just now learned to love myself, and was rewarded by finally being able to feel the love of others!

    • November 30, 2016 / 8:52 pm

      I’m so happy for you! There’s nothing better than that feeling!

  11. December 26, 2016 / 9:29 am

    This is beautiful Tash! What have you been doing to stop comparing yourself to others? I find that I do it subconsciously and it’s really hard to stop… I want to learn to love myself for me and not what others think! 🙂

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