I honestly think that every person on this planet has an insecurity, which is okay as nobody is perfect. There is all something we may be a bit insecure about ourselves, whether it’s something physical such as that little scar on your nose, you do not fit in your favourite pair of jeans anymore or the fact you don’t feel pretty. It may be something else, you may not like how you socialise or your voice. It’s okay to have these insecurities as everyone has them. But, what’s not okay is to turn these insecurities into something so big that you start to loathe yourself.
I for one knows how it feels to hate something about you, or really hate yourself in general. I know what it’s like to cry and breakdown, feeling like your worthless, ugly and belittled as you feel like everyone is better than you in every way possible. What’s quite ironic is that we can hate ourselves but we show so much love for other people. If our friend was telling us she hated her body, we would all reassure them that they have a body to die for. Whereas we can beat up ourselves that we don’t have the perfect body. If you had a friend who had the same voice as the one you doubt and beat yourself up with- would you want to be friends with them?
We all spread love and yearn for others to love us. But you cannot expect someone to love you if you cannot love yourself. When you look in the mirror and see something you don’t like, you actually need to think WHY don’t you like it. Is it because the people in magazines don’t have it? Is it because someone has told you it’s strange? If the reason why you don’t like that certain thing had never happened- you would have never originally had a problem with it.
We need to stop comparing ourselves with others because all it does is promote sadness. Comparison is the thief of joy and just sets off a catalyst of a chain reaction of disappointment. If I asked you all what was your favourite flowers, some of you may say red roses, others may say sunflowers and someone might say white lilies. All of those flowers are beautiful, yet they grow in different places, are different colours, different shapes and different sizes. If we can admire and think different flowers are pretty, then why can’t we think that different skin tones are pretty, or that different proportions of body shapes are beautiful? All of you are beautiful, just because one person is a rose and you are a sunflower doesn’t mean that your no more or less beautiful. You are a beautiful flower and you need to love every part of you because as soon as you do, you will bloom even more.
Self-love is the best kind of love.