Here it comes…the ridiculously cliche saying of ‘long time, no see’– but it truly HAS been a long time since I’ve been over here, almost FOUR MONTHS! In case if some of you didn’t notice (which most of you probably didn’t LOL), I have been absent recently here on my blog as well as ALL of my social media, and I sort of just left without an explanation…
Firstly, (if there are any of you left!) I want to say how much I’ve missed you all, blogging is one of my favourite things in the world; sharing things I love and interacting with so many of you, and I’m super excited to be making a somewhat ‘comeback’. As much as I didn’t want to go on a break, I have to admit– it did me THE WORLD of good. To be completely honest, a big old combo of school, mental health and just LIFE, in general, hit me like a tonne of bricks and I needed to have a breather. I may go into all of that another day, but this post is just to say GALS IM BACK (if you’ll have me?!) and also just to share what I’ve learnt in the past few months my just focusing on yours truly.
- It’s okay if everything gets a bit too much
Although we all know it’s impossible, we all try to make out we have our whole lives worked out and are completely happy, even if we are far from it. During my break, I truly realised that this cannot happen. I understood that as well as trying to make others think I’m doing great- I was simultaneously attempting to convince myself that I was too, and I really wasn’t. We are faced with so much crap constantly whether its school, work, family or a million more reasons between, it’s going to happen no matter what. I took a step back and really evaluated what was important to me and whether what I was doing was for me or for other people. It’s okay to take a step back and start again, you are the biggest priority in your own life- its never too late to reinvent yourself.
- You are valued so much more than you think
It is very easy to start seeing yourself through the eyes of others that perhaps do not value your worth. I along with the rest of you and the world know what it feels like to feel awful about myself, questioning whether I truly matter and what I am accomplishing can be classed as achievements. On this break, I cannot explain how I’ve realised how lucky I am to be surrounded by the people I am, by just really looking around, I can see how many people that appreciate me and that I love. You may feel as though nobody is there, but you will never feel completely valued unless if you learn to admit that other people do, and you do too.
- Hard work truly does pay off
Life can be so flipping hard as it is and we are persistently put through situations in which we have to work even harder. The endless exams in school, deadlines and just growing as an individual has OF COURSE led me to question ‘is this work even worth it?’. Let me tell you- it does. My whole life I have worked hard in everything I do, even if there are a thousand reasons why I shouldn’t, simply because I do not want to look back thinking I could have done better. When I say ‘pay off’ this can come in so many forms, yes I have been awarded for my hard work through materialistic things such as awards, praise and even a scholarship (I know, like WHAT!), but what I honestly value more is the confidence and pure proudness it brings me. Hard work is rewarding as it literally shows you that you are capable of great things and whatever you apply yourself to, you will in someway succeed- even if it’s not in the way you were expecting.
- Give yourself more credit
It’s normal to underplay our success as we wanna be all ‘humble’ which I think is super nice, but also the fact we do acknowledge that not all of us succeed simultaneously and putting it simply, we don’t want to rub it in each other’s faces. However, you can give yourself credit without screaming your achievements from the rooftops. I’ve recently acknowledged that I should be proud of myself, not just of my academic achievements or whatever, but the fact that regardless of all the utter crap I’ve been through, I’ve managed to come out the other side as a person who I am proud to be (if I do say so myself). Yes, I have my self-doubts and insecurities, but that does not change how I have grown and what I have accomplished. We just need to give ourselves a lil’ pat on the back a bit more now and then, we celebrate our friends’ successes- so why not start celebrating our own?
- Everything you are looking for is already within you
We all live wanting more out of life, which isn’t selfish at all- it’s human. It’s not that we want more things materialistically, but more in the sense, we want more experiences, happiness and memories which sometimes ends up making you feel as though something is missing. However, I think that this can lead to us spending so much time looking for something that we didn’t realise we already had and ultimately ruining it. I really do follow the idea that ‘everything you are looking for is already within you’ in that I do not need anything else in order to achieve my dreams, I am not disadvantaged if I do not possess what others have because I alone am enough.
SO that’s just five things that I’ve learnt over the past few months- yes they are things I think we all already know, but they are just things that I’ve really pondered over and I think we all need to hear now and again! I know this kind of post is a bit more philosophical and personal, but that is the kind of person I am and I want to share that more here on my blog. If I am going to experience bad moments in my life, I want to at least find use of them by using them to grow as well as share with others!
I cannot explain how happy I am to be back and the blog posts will be back in full swing as soon as my exams are over! (which is TWO WEEKS ahhh I’m buzzinggggg)